Approaching women has always seemed like a really big deal to thousands of men who are perfectly normal in every other sense. They just don't seem to understand what is it that makes them so vulnerable to the opposite sex when they come face to face. If you too, have been facing this situation quite frequently, then I've got news for you. The number one reason why attracting women is such a hard task is because men get too anxious before saying the first word or making the first move.
Think of it this way, if you are out to buy a second hand car, and set your eyes on your dream vehicle in a rather loud fashion, i.e., ogling at it and asking the salesman about every little detail, more than is necessary, do you really expect the salesman to give you a discount. You can bet every dollar you have in your pocket at that time he won't, because he knows your want it. A similar approach works with approaching women as well. If you will be too excited to see them or talk to them, they will clearly see you as someone who is desperate to get into a relationship, a fact that would fend her off.
So, in order to ensure you have a fighting chance of getting her, act cool, exude confidence, and let your words do the rest of the magic. Remember, more than 80% of your impression has already been made before you even speak. Make yours count!
Approaching women - Develop your own style
You might have heard a lot about it in life that it's better to be a first hand version of you than a second hand version of somebody else. The most viable application of this fact might have been in job interviews, where everyone you would have asked for advice would have told you to maintain originality. Well, approaching womenis not different, and the sooner you figure out staying yourself pays, the better it is.
To elucidate my point, let me tell you a fact I had to learn the hard way – women can easily spot a fake. They can tell from a mile away that the expensive suit you are wearing is a rental, and that all your conversation about modern art has been mugged up the night before. So before you go all out in your quest on finding tips regarding how to attract a woman, just make sure that you go as yourself, and neither as a wannabe version of your best friend who always seems to find his way around girls, nor someone who picks up all popular lines from movies and then forgets them in mid-way due to nervousness. Remember, approaching women isn't half as hard as it is made out to be. The main reason why so many people fail is because they don't act themselves.
To elucidate my point, let me tell you a fact I had to learn the hard way – women can easily spot a fake. They can tell from a mile away that the expensive suit you are wearing is a rental, and that all your conversation about modern art has been mugged up the night before. So before you go all out in your quest on finding tips regarding how to attract a woman, just make sure that you go as yourself, and neither as a wannabe version of your best friend who always seems to find his way around girls, nor someone who picks up all popular lines from movies and then forgets them in mid-way due to nervousness. Remember, approaching women isn't half as hard as it is made out to be. The main reason why so many people fail is because they don't act themselves.
How to pick up a woman - Take genuine interest in her, and not just yourself!
You might have noticed that a lot of these 'how-to' articles always focus on the 'you' part more. Do YOU want to be handsome, do YOU want to be a hit among your colleagues... The same is the case when you read articles and blogs about how to pick up a woman. However, being a favorite among the ladies is not the least bit about concentrating on you; it's about giving them their share of attention.
Let's face it, everyone is interested only in their likes and dislikes, and the same is the case with all those the girl you are trying to get attracted to yourself might have seen or dated. In this case, if you come off as a difference, and pay more attention to what she is saying, no prizes for guessing who would be having a phenomenally high chance of a date. Women, at their very basic level, are actually yearning for someone they can talk to. And this is precisely the reason another scoring point on how to pick up a woman can be to identify her areas of interest and see what you know about them. Lying here is definitely not an option, since you would be instantly caught. Instead, try to zero in on at least a couple of things that both of you have in common, and you are sure to land a next date!
Approaching women is all about confidence
For a majority of men who have not had much experience with the opposite sex, approaching women always seems like a herculean task. And even for those who have had their fair share of experiences, some of the women always seem out of their league. However, neither experience nor plain old good looks are going to attract women. It takes a lot more to have that 'X-factor' that can attract the ladies to you.
Basically, it's all about confidence. If you are not confident about yourself, how can you even expect the other person to think you are attractive, even as a friend? And let me tell you, for a lot of women who score 10/10 in looks, being friends is the most important first step to a serious relationship. You need to ignore your weaknesses and concentrate on what you're good at. For instance, if you are not having a great height, you must concentrate on your conversational skills. Women can easily make out when you are sure about your 'eligibility', if you will, of going out with them. So irrespective of what you might be feeling, it is extremely important to project confidence. And don't be scared of rejection the first couple of times, take of it as practice for you to get better at approaching women!
Basically, it's all about confidence. If you are not confident about yourself, how can you even expect the other person to think you are attractive, even as a friend? And let me tell you, for a lot of women who score 10/10 in looks, being friends is the most important first step to a serious relationship. You need to ignore your weaknesses and concentrate on what you're good at. For instance, if you are not having a great height, you must concentrate on your conversational skills. Women can easily make out when you are sure about your 'eligibility', if you will, of going out with them. So irrespective of what you might be feeling, it is extremely important to project confidence. And don't be scared of rejection the first couple of times, take of it as practice for you to get better at approaching women!
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